Monday, February 21, 2011
WaNiTa HaRi Ini WiTh Tuan Haji Anuar
I was waiting my turn at the dentist hall. Suddenly the "Wanita Hari Ini" program at television (TV3) interviewed our Tuan Haji Anuar about the social problem regarding our teenagers at school. The problem discussed were about the "samseng" (gangsterism) and "lelaki lembut" (gynemimesism). Interesting topic and nice proposed solution.
I have my own opinion about one of the topic: The gangsterism. It has exist since very long time at school. But the trend seems to be increasing nowadays, and the consequence seems more serious. The fact is that, most of people start to know that their teenagers are becoming wild and violent; due to the clips taken from handphone and uploaded at the youtube.
I have seen this many times during my secondary school (13 years to 17 years). I have seen both of the gang fought, all around the school, with their school uniform. They used the sticks, iron bar, machete, axe and chain. I have seen one of them died, beaten at head by an axe. Why is this happened? They got few reasons:
all of the members of gang A, must never pass through the lane, or an area, or even to come eat at a restaurant under the "territorial" of gang B. sometime, it is just a matter of small part inside a school or kampung.
personal problem of one member with a member of other gang. To settle this, he asks helps from his gang to revenge.
they fight for a very stupid and silly reason: for a girl. and they would die for it.
This is not the fault of the school or teachers only. The main problem is from the family itself. The parents must play their role rightly to educate their children. Parents have the right on their children. Parents must never fear to their children, even though the psychology approaches must be used firstly. As Malay proverbs says "melentur buluh biar dari rebungnya". (bending the bamboo should be made when it's still young). When the soft approach is not enough, then some "rotan" (punishing) would necessary, but should be done with caution.
The problem recently is the sueing trend among the parents. We are influenced with a bad habit of sueing the teachers, when teachers punished our children for being morally bad. This makes teachers fear to do anything, even though his/her student becomes too bad. Most of teachers nowadays will just ignore the bad student fearing they will get problem after. Especially when nowadays more and more male teachers "extinct", and let the school surveyed only by the female teachers.
I had grown with a warning by my Mom, who was a teacher. She said once, "if I heard you are punished at school because of being naughty, I'll double your punishment!". That warning indeed disciplined me. And I didn't do anything stupid seems all of teachers know my Mom and my Dad. Maybe in one side, I was lucky to be with a group of good friends who never thought to "ponteng" (skip the class without excuse), to smoke in the school toilet, or to watch the pornvideo and experimented it.
Everyone must be blamed here. Everyone has the responsibility to educate the teenagers. There must not exist the "mind your own business" thing. Every teacher must not only come to school to teach and wait every month's salary. Teacher must be the one who educate, and must know every of his/her student's parents and their background. The personal relation must exist between teachers and parents. The parents in other hand, must be strict in growing their children. Control their daily activities, and watch with whom they are friends with. Inspect their belongings as you have the right to know everything about your children. C'mon, they are your's!!! And for us, the neigbour, or the person who is seeing something bad done by the teenagers, must do a right thing. Never keep the silence. Report to the right person if we are not able to do it alone. Or if you are able, use your voice to advice them, or if needed, use your "material, physical, psychological, spiritual or mental strength" to make them know which is right and which is not. Failing to do this, in 2o, 30 and 40 years, we will live in fear. We will be regreting as there will be to much criminal. And that time, we are too old and too weak to advice them anymore. That naughty little ones in front of us have the big potential to be a real gangster when they have grown up. So brothers and sisters, be brave and feel generous to advice our new generation!!!!
To Cikgu Anuar, congratulation and many thanks for the interview.